Transparent

So, what does it mean to be a Trans* parent?  If you have transitioned before becoming a parent, it means something different than being a parent who is transitioning.

I have a friend who has been a step-father for awhile and is transitioning to step-motherhood.  One of the beautiful things about her story is that she had included her wife and her wife's daughter in her important decisions about transition.  They go to counseling together, and even though the step-child is young, she has been a supporter, advocate and leader in the process.

What are your stories of trans*parent-cy?  Are you a trans-parent? Do you have a trans*parent?  What advice do you have for people negotiating this world?

I am a new parent; I have a 21-year-old step daughter since 1 year ago.  Being trans* is easy compared to being a parent.  She gets the trans* bit and accepts it and sometimes calls me Mom and sometimes Dad and sometimes by my name.  She helps others understand gender issues and follows news and blogs like the ones I do.

But the same shit my parents and all parents struggled with as parents, I struggle with - from the step perspective.

So, let's unite as parents and not think of trans*parents as different or other...we all have to figure out communication, discipline and love.